Tag: emotions during infertility

Sometimes You Feel Empty in the Season of Infertility


It’s hard to get through the day feeling empty. Especially when every day seems to be filled with emptiness.

Empty womb.

Empty arms.

Empty heart.

Feeling empty

Emptiness is HEAVY. But how can emptiness have weight–isn’t that an oxymoron? I’m not sure how it happens but I know the emotions of emptiness and hopelessness are so heavy and burdensome and yet we readily tote them around as if we have no alternative. What do you do when those feelings of emptiness tempt you to carry them with you throughout your day? What if there was someone who wanted to carry that weight for you? Would you give it to them?

Well, the someone who has made that very offer is Jesus. He wants you to see Him as your burden lifter and carrier; the One who stands at the ready to pick up and carry all the weight of barrenness so that you can be yoked with Him, filled with His Spirit, and experience the fullness of His rest, peace and joy.

Will you let Him?

“Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.” ~Matthew 11:28

Bring Back Your Hope

If you’ve lost hope for something in your life, bring your hope back to life by finding a promise of God that relates to your situation. Believe that the promise is true for you. If you find it hard to believe, ask God to help you believe it (Mark 9:24).

empty - unbelief

Then speak that promise and expect it to manifest in your life. You’ll have to be persistent in speaking that promise…your enemy, the devil, will do all he can to distract you from believing and speaking it with confidence. Despite that, continue to thank God that His promise for you is sure and worthy of your trust. Rest assured, your hope will be renewed and your confidence increased as you fill the emptiness and renew your hope by taking a stand on the promises of God.

When emptiness, hopelessness, and other negative emotions overtake you and make you feel like something is missing from the very core of your being, Jesus’ love and grace are available everyday to comfort and guide you through the struggle.

Illustration Sources: https://www.betterhelp.com (empty) and http://www.joshuanhook.com (unbelief)


A Prayer for Today

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The Shock of Male Infertility

Pressure. All of us face it in various forms. But men tend to deal with pressure in ways that are much different from women.

Enter the pressure of being told that you, the husband, are the one with infertility issues. Below, is the link to an informative article from Resolve.org about male infertility…that’s right, MALE  infertility.

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Image courtesy of Stuart Miles / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Most people think that infertility is a only female issue. It’s not. According to Resolve, about 30% of all infertility cases are a result of infertility factors in the husband. Men have to find ways of coping with the shock of being told of their infertility. It affects not only their body but also their ego, among other things. You don’t hear much said about male infertility. There’s not much written about it. But it does happen.

A scripture that can help a man continue in hope when he’s facing infertility is Job 11:18 [NLT], Having hope will give you courage.”

Here’s the link for the Resolve article: Men – Emotions and Infertility.

I hope you’ll find some helpful information in it and pass it, along with the scripture, on to others.

A Mother’s Day Letter to Pastors

As we approach Mother’s Day, I remember how difficult was to get through the Day before I overcame infertility, especially at church. I thought this excerpt from Amy Young’s blog would be good food for thought…especially for pastors as they consider their method of honoring mothers during Sunday’s service.

“To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is.”

Mother's day

Trying to Hold it Together

Many times during the struggle with infertility, you feel like you about to fall apart. There is usually  no one else who truly understands what you’re going through, so talking to others about it can be difficult, unproductive, and very frustrating. That frustration can make you choose to just suffer silently. THAT is not a good choice! When you’re trying to hold all that emotion inside of you, it’s only a matter of time before you start to feel like you’ll explode. That explosion can be expressed in anger, self-pity, sadness, bitterness, self-condemnation, and many other destructive ways.

But there is One who can help. Jesus is the One who is capable of understanding this situation and helping you to get through it without falling apart. Colossians 1:17 [NIV] says, “He is before all things, and in him all things hold together. ” His love and grace are available everyday to comfort and guide you through the struggle so the negative emotions don’t overtake you and make you feel like everything is falling apart.

Look to Him today and on a daily basis. Trust His hands to hold you and to keep things in your life held together.

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