5 Bible Verses Every Infertile Woman Needs To Know

If you are struggling with infertility, you know what a hopeless situation it can become, if  you let it. When I dealt with it, I found the best source of hope was the Bible. It contains numerous scriptures that pertain directly to infertility. It also gives many accounts of women who were once barren/infertile/childless but became a mother all because they trusted God to be true to His Word.

I’ve said it before, Infertility Sucks! But I know firsthand that it can be overcome. Here are five verses that I meditated on and repeatedly used as verbal affirmations, putting my name in each scripture. I think you’ll find them to be great sources of HOPE.

Deuteronomy 7:14 [NKJV] ~ “You shall be blessed above all people; there shall not be male or female barren among you.”

Isaiah 50:7 [NKJV] ~ “For the Lord God will help me; Therefore I will not be disgraced; Therefore I have set My face like a flint, And I know that I will not be ashamed.”

Leviticus 26:9 [Amplified Bible] ~ “For I will be leaning toward you with favor and regard for you, rendering you fruitful, multiplying you and establishing and ratifying my covenant with you.”

Hebrews 11:11 [NLT] ~ “It was by faith that even Sarah was able to have a child, though she was barren and was too old. She believed that God would keep his promise.”

Luke 1:37 ~ “For with God NOTHING shall be impossible.”

Are there other scriptures in which you find hope? Please share them below.

69 thoughts on “5 Bible Verses Every Infertile Woman Needs To Know

  1. Actually, Sarah didn’t believe that it would happen. When she heard the angles telling Abraham &
    she laughed out of disbelief. The reason it happened wasn’t because of Sarah’s or even Abraham’s faith, it was because it was already ordained to happen by God.

    1. Thanks for your thoughts. I agree, Sarah initially responded with unbelief, even denying that she laughed (Genesis 18:9-15)! Aren’t we fortunate that God did not let that stop His love from being poured out on her? I do believe that it was because of Abraham and Sarah’s faith in God that Isaac was born. God had made a covenant with Abraham many years before this visitation and declared that He would give him a son and millions of descendants through that son (Genesis 15). I think the key verse in this passage is Gen. 15:6–“And He (Abraham) believed in the Lord and He accounted it to him for righteousness.” Abraham’s faith was enough for God to see him as being righteous. His faith was enough for God to make a blood covenant with him to show him that the promise would indeed come to pass.

      Hebrews 11:11 [NKJV] says, “By faith Sarah herself also received strength to conceive seed, and she bore a child when she was past the age, because she judged Him faithful who had promised.” I think Sarah’s faith is mentioned in Hebrews 11 because she later came to a point where she too believed—literally taking a hold of God’s powerful ability to act on her behalf. She came to trust in His faithfulness to keep His promise that she would become pregnant within the next year.

      I hope it encourages you to know that TODAY God is still trustworthy. He simply looks for our faith in the finished work of His Son, Jesus. He is lovingly willing and able to make His Word come to pass in our lives.

      Blessings to you!

    1. You are welcome! I encourage you to encourage yourself DAILY with God’s promises. Continue to REST in HOPE by trusting God’s love for you. [Psalm 16:9] Please keep in touch.

  2. ‘Sing, O barren, You who have not borne! Break forth into singing, and cry aloud, You who have not labored with child! For more are the children of the desolate than the children of the married woman,’ says the LORD. ” (Isaiah 54:1). I truly believe that what this is saying is that God has a plan for those who cannot bear children. The poor and misguided children who are struggling with their family, those who are abused and seek out someone for help outside of the family, all of those issues that they cannot for whatever reason, tell their family, they will talk to you. Don’t ever think that you aren’t a Mom.

    1. Thank you Robert,
      I really needed to hear this because I am really stuggerling and feeling very oppressed today. My heart is aching and I am longing for a child. I needed to read this today.

    2. Beautiful scripture and my interpretation is the same. I have PCOS and have tried over the years to conceive and was never able to. I can identify with all of the pain that I hear others talk about. I have gone through it all. Thank God, I read this scripture one day several years ago and a light came on. I have been there for a lot of children in my life and I am thankful for that. Now there is a young girl that has lost both of her parents and she is reaching out to me and its funny because this lady told me the other day she thought she was my daughter. I thank God for placing these children in my life, it has been so fulf illing for me. I still have not given up on having my own child someday but I understand that God’s plan is the best plan. Not my will, but let thy will be done. Thank you for sharing that scripture. God bless you.

    3. I try to believe this Robert. I think society makes us feel like we are not moms. I am a teacher of almost 300 children, a specials teacher. I also have a dog I love very much. I know what is said here is true, and once this day passes I will be able to cling to this. It is just so hard today because I feel less whole. I also am trying to not lean on my own understanding, I am 50, it just seems impossible. I have been struggling for almost ten years. I am questioning all my choices now. I did not chose to get married late. My husband is not for adoption, we tried to foster and it just did not work out. I just cannot close the door. My heart tells me god has not finsihed with me yet, there is still a way, he knows me more than I know myself, my head though and society says let the door close but today my heart is heavy and I just feel all alone. Maybe it is because I also do not have a mom, she died suddenly five years ago. I have no parents, and my husband, whom I love just does not seem hopeful. I think he has just accepted it, I just cannot. I became a christian last year, I am clinging on to the hope and promised of god. I just refused to believe that a miscariage nine years ago will be all I have in this life. I do love teaching, and I love my dog, but this whole just never goes away:( But I just wanted to say this is beautiful.

      1. I also cannot stop criticizing myself. I even see errors in my own post, I am just so emotional now. I meant to say hole. not whole. please excuse mistakes,

        1. Katanya, please don’t beat yourself up. It’s OK,we all make mistakes— especially typos! 🙂 Thanks for the work that you do with special-needs children. You obviously have a soft and giving heart for others. Praying that you’ll allow Jesus’s love for you and His promises in the Word to fill that hole in your heart that brings you such despair. Use the 5 scriptures in this post as a tool to access God’s power. They are a great reminder of His willingness to change things in your life.

          Here’s my response that I posted in reply to your comment on my “Dreading Mother’s Day?” post:
          I hope that your Mother’s Day experience turned out better than you had expected. I encourage you to take some quiet time and think about where your focus is right now. Infertility has a way of slithering into every facet of our lives and distracting us from the good. It makes us focus only on what’s missing. It gradually blinds us to the good things that are happening in our lives and keeps from experiencing the fullness of joy. May I suggest that you “make an appointment with yourself” everyday for the next 3 weeks and use that time to shift your focus on the good things God has already done for you? It’s imperative that we encourage ourselves no matter how dark our circumstances may be. Jesus loves you. He is the answer to EVERY problem and He has made a way. Praying for you to experience a shift of momentum that takes you to the JOY side of life.

  3. There is a lot of ways on how to get pregnant or in other words Infertility treatment, such like this Blog Post. Its Incredible!

    This really helps giving tips to those longing and desiring kids for themselves. It is a pleasurable thing to help others who need to build their own family. Giving the couple the right to have become a father and mother.

    Lets spread love to those barren or married couple get rid of the problem of having no kids or even to those who are planning to build their own home.
    Just sharing couple of Tips and advice for everyone

    1. I’m glad you found this post helpful.You’re so right about showing love. Love changes things! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  4. I have struggled five and a half years to conceive. I have battled endometriosis, now I found out my left fallopian tube is blocked, I have calcification or fibroids in my uterine cavity or near it. I have to go for a hysteroscopy and D & C. I am 37 next month – still trying for my first child. I feel desperate and hopeless. I am a believer and I love the Lord but I can’t understand why he has not answered my desperate pleas yet – I do believe he will but I feel so discouraged

    1. Sharon, I get it. You’ve fallen into despair and it’s hard to see your way out. BUT, I have some good news for you! You can change how you’re seeing things and begin to look at your circumstances with more of a hope-filled focus. Hope has to be tenacious; keeping it at the top of your mind is key. Otherwise, this experience of infertility can railroad you into a tunnel of what seems to be never-ending darkness.

      Here’s a tip: Read Hebrews 12:2 many times to remind yourself of where your focus needs to be and Who is the source of your hope. When you focus on the good (and there’s none better than Jesus) and you keep your thoughts aligned with good things, praise-worthy things, you will find yourself experiencing greater peace [Philippians 4:6-9].

      I have a 31-day scriptural guide that I know will be helpful to you. If you’d like to get it, email me at hopebooks12@gmail.com and I’ll be glad to send it to you.

      Please stay in touch with me and know that I’m praying for you.

    2. I too struggled many years with infertility, nine years to be exact and I had tried four countries to adopt when I was pregnant at age 39. I have a beautiful six year old daughter now. One thing that really helped me when I was struggling with this was to cling to Isaiah 54:1-4 Sing O barren woman you who did not bear break forth into singing and cry aloud you who have not in labor. For the children of the desolate one will be more than the children if her who is married. Enlarge the place of your tent and let your tent curtains stretch out. Do not hold back you will stretch out to the right and to the left. Lwngrjen your cards strengthen your stakes. For you will spread out to the right and to the left your offspring will posrss the nations and will people rhw desolate cities. O also realized that I had time to have spiritual children and helped others by babysitting, Forster parenting, and starting a ministry for housing project kids and a basket ministry fair people in the hospital with depression. Waiting on the Lord is not passive. Nothing is impossible with God

      1. Thanks for sharing this verse; it is indeed a good one to cling to. You are so right—WAITING ON THE LORD IS NOT PASSIVE! He desires that in the waiting we show our confidence in Him through our faith-inspired actions.

  5. I have been trying since I was 18 because all I’ve ever wanted since a little girl is to have a family. My husband and I have been trying for 3 years found out I was not ovulating tried for two years with infertility medicines. We can’t afford artificial incemination ir ivf. My husband doesn’t want to adopt doesn’t want to foster and gets mad when I get depressed. I need help because I’m losing my mind.

    1. Mandi, I sympathize with your experience. So sorry that it’s been so tough. What help have you sought from your doctor/pastor/priest in dealing with the emotional stress?

    2. Mandi, I’ve been thinking about you and wanted you to know I’m praying for you. I hope you were encouraged by my post today (10/2/13) and that you’ll find greater hope from this scripture filled with promises from God:
      “Worship the LORD your God, and his blessing will be on your food and water. I will take away sickness from among you,and none will miscarry or be barren in your land. I will give you a full life span.” ~ Exodus 23:25-26

      1. I’ve been trying and trying. We’ve struggled five and a half years to conceive! Just found out my left tube is blocked, I am insulin resistant and have calcification next to or in my uterine cavity. I seem to only ovulate every second month but have regular periods. I’ve been praying and reading affirmative scriptures of God’s promises for children but my prayers remain unanswered. I am 37 next week and still struggling for my first whilst everyone around me conceives without trying. I am emotionally exhausted, my faith diminishing (last month I was convinced I was pregnant but noooooo…joke was on me again). I need breakthrough prayer for us to conceive before the end of this year because I am dying inside I cannot go through this anymore. I know God is more powerful than all my fertility issues but battle to understand why he continues to let me suffer. My heart is breaking and I can’t keep faking a smile and pretending all is ok whilst everyone talks babies and pregnancies.

        1. Sharon, I’m so sorry that this pain is so overwhelming for you. Please know that I’m praying for you to experience PEACE. Sometimes, we have to work at encouraging ourselves to keep hope alive. I must ask, are you a believer in Jesus Christ as your savior? I hope so. If you are, are you reading God’s Word? More importantly, are you HEARING God’s Word? May I suggest that you read some passages out loud to yourself that confirm what God’s promises are about healing and children? Our faith gets built up primarily by repeatedly hearing God’s Word (Romans 10:17).

          When you hear yourself saying what He’s promised, it really gets down into your inner being. Keep saying it out loud over and over and you’ll find you’re believing it more and that you can go on with a hope-filled focus in life. I don’t believe that God is punishing you in any way nor is He playing a cruel joke on you. He is a loving Father who only wants you to experience His best in life. As a believer in Christ, you have an enemy, the devil, and he only comes to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). Jesus wants you to use His authority over the devil and live an abundant life, one filled with joy. Assess whether deep down inside, you really believe God loves you. Sometimes we get caught up in self-condemnation and we think that God looks at us with stern, steely eyes or even looks away from us.

          Trust that He is with you through this. Trust that He loves you the same way He loves Jesus (John 17:23). When you focus on His love for you, the fear is lessened, the anxiety decreases, the burden is lighter and I believe your body will respond accordingly.

          If you need some direction to applicable scriptures, you can find LOTS of them in my book, “A Seed of Hope: God’s Promises of Fertility.” I hope this helps you and your husband and that you’ll stay in touch. I look forward to hearing good news from you soon.

        2. Sharon, I want to say that sometimes we just have to believe that God IS Able! Just as the three Hebrew boys in the fiery furnace; their reply was God Is Able, even if He doen’t deliver us (Daniel 3:16-18). Now, you may not be in a literal fiery furnace, but I know the pain and anguish you are feeling can be likened to a furnace. I do not know whether or not God will give you a child in your womb, but I do KNOW that GOD IS ABLE!!

          As someone who has dealth with the hurt and pain of losing my children (by miscarriage) and now being unable to have children, I know how hard it is to want and long for a child (of your own) that you can hold and raise. So I am speaking from experience.
          But I will say (even though it is hard to admit sometimes) that I have learned is that sometimes the answer is, “No”. But even when the answer is ‘No’, God still gives us something. For instance, with Paul, when he asked God three times to remove the ‘thorn’ from his flesh, God did not remove it. So in essence, His answer to Paul’s direct plea, was ‘No’. But God still gave Paul something…He told Paul, “my grace is sufficient for thee”. So God still gave Paul grace. So it wasn’t exavtly what Paul asked for, but God gave him something good, which most likely what he (Paul) needed anyway.

        3. (Sorry this was omitted from my other post)…Ultimately, we have to learn to pray that God’s Will be done and that He gives us the grace and peace to accept His Will (whatever it may be). Sometimes it is hard when (and if) it seems like what we want is not in His Will for our lives. But I do know He does not want you depressed (because I have been there for a long time). I truly understand!!! I was angry for a long time and I couldn’t even look at someone who was pregnant and it seemed like they were always around me. Every where I turned someone was pregnant, or pregnant and showing, or just had a baby. I mean I was very angry and bitter. I still hurt sometimes and get melancholy when I think about the children I have in heaven, but I just want you to be encouraged that whatever the answer is, whether it is, “yes” or “no” or “wait”. I do not know whether or not or when God is going to give you a child, but I do know that He is Able. I will be praying that God’s Will be done in your situation and that He comforts you while you wait on His answer.

          1. T, thanks for sharing how you have dealt with such a difficult time in your life. It’s always good to know that someone else empathizes.

        4. Sharon, I am in tears as I read this because I know exactly how you feel. I too have been trying to no avail. Every month my heart breaks, every month I feel like I am not being heard, I ask what did I do wrong, who did I offend? Am I going to be a bad parent, is that why? But every month i start over, with new hope that THIS month will be the month. I don’t know why, more importantly how I do it but i do know that being a mother is the one thing that i am suppose to do, the one responsibility God has given me. This is his promise not only to me but, if you feel the pain down in your stomach and heart as i do, then I know it is his promise to you as well.

          I know how hard it is to think you are pregnant only to go to the restroom and see your cycle. I know how defeating that is. I know it was pompous of me to think i was the only one that has had that feeling, it I thank you for sharing. Please be encouraged, it may not be this month, this year or even next, but please know that we are Women of God, we have more strength and endurance than we could ever imagine. Nothing great comes without struggle, and the only thing I know how to do in times of struggle is PRAY.

          I know you have prayed, bargained, wished, hoped, and begged (I know I still am) but God has given us the power we did not even know we had to wait on his answer.

          So I ask this, if I may… Please pray for me and i will pray for you. That way we don’t feel alone and we help each other through this. Our hearts may be broken today, but GOD will pick up the pieces and make it more than whole tomorrow.

          1. Gilda, thanks for reminding us how important it is to pray for one another as a way of encouraging each other to keep hope alive. It’s always good to know that someone, somewhere, is praying on our behalf. Please know that I pray for you, Sharon, and all the others who have commented here; that you would know not only that God is able but He is also WILLING to transform you in the midst of your circumstances. He has a good plan for you and it’s filled with grace. Keep looking to Jesus, the one who moves mountains as a result of your faith in Him.

  6. I Was Married 10 Year And We Were Unable To Have Children. Everything Happens For A Reason. I Am Now With A Man Who Loves Me And I Truly LOve Him. We Have Been Together 2 Years And Are Still Unable To Conceive. Last Night I Had A Dream. God Placed OUr Daughter In My lap And Said”Soon” I Awoke With Tears Of Joy Because I Was Able To Meet Her. God Even Told Me Her Name. i Am Just Overcomed But A Feeling Happiness.

    1. Linda, it’s wonderful that you have renewed hope! So many times, God gives us a dream/vision/an encouraging word to help us not give up. I’m praying that you’ll stand strong in your confidence of His love for you and His faithfulness to His Word. Blessings to you!

  7. I am encouraged as reading the comments here. I am searching for a comfort that I don’t know….I am depressed right now and in need of prayer. My husband and i are married for a year and been trying to have a child. I’m 30 and he’s 41. I have a friend and she’s been trying to conceive and now is pregnant, which I envy her life. I’ve been praying a lot to conceive but God did not blessed me and i am so angry. I’ve been crying a lot without my husband’s knowing that really deep inside of me I am useless and forgotten. The pain and the hurt I’m feeling won’t go away even I try to encourage myself …

    1. Hi. I so glad you were encouraged as you read the comments here!

      I’m sorry that you’re hurting so much. Let me make something clear–you are not useless–infertility does not define you unless you let it. And, you are not forgotten in God’s eyes. Keep looking to Him and expecting to receive from Him.

      I remember experiencing the pain you have, now that your friend is pregnant. During our struggle with infertility, I had 2 friends to get pregnant without even trying! One of the things that’s important for you remember is that envy will not make things better for you. It will,however, drag you deeper into a pit of despair. Instead, choose to purposely show happiness for your friend, and then sow into her experience by doing things with her and for her as she continues in her pregnancy. Consider your actions as seeds that you’re sowing for your own pregnancy.

      Please understand, your words, your spirit and the Word of God play an immensely important role in the struggle of infertility because they address the spiritual aspect of infertility. Infertility is not just a physical issue; it is also a spiritual issue. Remember, your words contain the power of life and death! I hope you encourage yourself AND let your husband know how you’re really feeling. He can’t comfort you appropriately if he doesn’t know the level of your pain. Please know that I’m praying for you to experience light instead of darkness and hope instead of despair. If you don’t have my book, A Seed of Hope: God’s Promises of Fertility, I encourage you to get it. It’s devotions will help you in maintaining a hope-filled focus as you move forward.

      I’d like to hear from you again soon.

  8. Thank you for sharing!! 🙂 myself and one if my closest friends were needing this today while we stand firm on our affirmations that God can and God will do that which He has promised.

    1. Mimi, I hope you and your friend are still standing on the strength of God’s Word and His willingness to see you through to victory!

    1. C, that is a wonderful verse from Psalms! It’s so encouraging. It gave me hope on many days during my struggle with infertility. Thanks for sharing.

  9. Hello im so glad i found somewhere to express myself. I feel so
    Alone im 25 and i am the only person i know with out a kid, my boyfriend has 4, but I trust God won’t forsake me. The Bible says ask And u will receive, and our God does not lie.

    1. Lost, you’re right, you’re safe to express yourself here. Please be assured that God loves you and wants only His best to manifest in your life! Praying for you to continue to look to Jesus for wisdom, comfort and strength.

  10. I’m always praying for God to bless my husband and I with a baby. We have been married for 9 years and have had so many tests ran. Still working on the clomid regime and we aren’t getting anywhere. We are trusting in The Lord, but discouragement hits me hard and harder each month.

    1. Chrissy, I know the monthly disappointment can difficult. Stay focused on the “one thing” that Jesus said was needful (Luke 10:42)—His unfailing love for you and the comfort & power found in His words. Praying for you.

  11. God Bless you ladies! I actually only came to read a few scriptures and The Lord lead me to this page! WOW! How amazing he is ! I can share my experience with you ladies as well. I am 22 years of age and I am married, have been for a little under six months ! I’ve never been pregnant in my entire lifetime , no miscarriages, abortions, etc nothing! I started to wonder hmm maybe something is wrong! I asked my gynecologist if he thought something was wrong and he said usually when you plan it it doesn’t happen! Pregnancy is something that just can’t be pin pointed ! When God is ready for you to conceive you will . I prayed that God bless my husband and I with a baby and the very next day a prophet told me that she saw me with a child! It’s been about a month and NO I still haven’t conceived but I’m trusting and believing and standing on God’s word! God’s word will NEVER be void ! Sometimes instead of going to God and asking for things we have to just thank him! Or pray for patience, an increase in faith , and understanding ! Fast and pray and make a petition before The Lord! Maybe there is some things they we have to change before we can conceive ! Ask God to show you these things and what your precious little seed(s) come! I hope I was an encouragement to you ladies! Can’t wait to share that I’m pregnant with you all and I’m praying for you all as well 🙂

    1. Shalisa, I’m so glad you followed God’s prompts that led you here! Thanks for the encouragement you offered to others. I’m praying that 2014 brings fresh revelation of God’s love for you and an enjoyable focus on His never-ending supply of blessings.

  12. This will be our 23rd month with no pregnancy for my husband and me. These verses are very helpful, as I have been feeling very abandoned by the Lord lately. I know He means for me to be a mother in His timing, but we’re nearing the point when we will be moving on to adoption. Our doctor is hopeful, but my optimism has been waning. Plus, it is becoming very painful to continually be asked “When do you guys think you’ll start having kids?” As loving as I have always found my church family, infirtility is not something that is spoken of publicly. Prayer, prayer, prayer.

    1. Betsy, I’ve been praying that you’ll not live according to your feelings but that you’ll live by God’s promises. Our feelings can quickly lead us down the road of despair. But God’s promises are sure and will only lead to good things. I know it’s hard, but keep your hope in Him and know that He has not abandoned you. Remember that He loves you and will give you and your husband wisdom for this struggle. Fear not!

  13. Our God is so amazing in His timing. I woke up yesterday and tested because I really thought this was our month and it was bfn. I broke down and just sobbed for an hour on the phone with my mom. I feel like I’ve been forgotten about, like God hasn’t heard my cry or just doesn’t care. I came across a verse that opened my eyes and made me realize how wrong I was.
    Psalm 22:24 For He has not ignored or belittled the suffering of the needy. He has not turned His back on them but has listened to their cries for help.
    As much as I’m hurting now, God has heard my heart and felt my pain and there’s a reason why this article came up in my newsfeed tonight. I know God can heal me and I will have another child one day. (I am dealing with secondary infertility). I know that our daughter is a true miracle that she’s here and healthy and she could have only been here by the grace of God. Yesterday morning after my phone sob fest, my mom called me back while watching the 700 club. They were praying on air and one of the ladies randomly began praying for women suffering from infertility. She prayed that God would heal me and she said that prayer for me. God’s timing is amazing. And I know His timing in giving us a child will also be perfect and wonderful. Thank you for the uplifting article.

    1. Thank you all so much! I have been dealing with PCOS for 7 years and it can be depressing not ovulating. I got married last year but have had a few years to worry about this point in my life. But our God is forever faithful, His timing is always perfect! I will lean on Him!

      1. Jennifer, you are absolutely right! God is forever faithful. We can count on Him to be true to His Word that He loves us, will always be with us, and that He desires for none to be barren. Keep believing in His personal love for you and stay focused on His best expression of love, Jesus.

  14. My husband and I have been married for 8 years now. And we were looking forward to building a family together. I had always dreamed of being a mommy. After a year and nothing happened. We saw a Dr and at age 20 the doctor diagnosed me with Premature Ovarian Failure. I was debased and depressed for quite sometime. Family members and loved ones couldn’t understand or did understand why after quite sometime I was still upset about my diagnosis. I turned to the only person I knew, God. I prayed and prayed for God to heal my broken heart and open doors. Which he did we became foster parents in 2010 and adopted a beautiful baby girl 2011. Her bio mom then surprised us with a baby boy that we adopted 2014. Foster to adopt in itself was a struggle but God helped us through the ups and downs. Today we are blessed and happy with our two children. Our family love them as much as we do. I still pray to God that one day I can bear a child but my focus on our children we have now. God is an all mighty and loving God I realized through my diagnosis God gave me another way to love a child and become a mother. It was his way and his terms but I wouldn’t change it for anything in the world.

    1. April, thanks so much for sharing your story. So many times we are blind to the opportunities that God brings our way in the midst of seemingly hopeless situations. I’m glad you had your eyes and your heart open to be able to take advantage of the doors He opened for you. Praying that you’ll enjoy motherhood to its fullest!

    2. You all are so strong and have such faith… I have always had faith that things would work out for me personally and they always have (for the most part – at least I could accept the outcome) until this… My husband and I have been trying for close to 2 years… My diagnosis is PCOS. He is fine. I took meds (responded) and still did not get pregnant… We then tried a few IUIs and nothing… Then my father dies suddenly in his sleep in January. I feel completely hopeless… I no longer feel that it will happen. I feel like sometimes He will just not give women children…I know he doesn’t always prayers… My father has always been sick and I have prayed for his healing and the week he finally sounded good (he suffered PTSD after Vietnam) He took him from me. I’ve tried to pray and thank God for my blessings, but I just can’t understand why He took my dad and why He won’t give me a child no matter how much I pray or what I do. Everyone says in time, have patience, quit trying… How is that even possible when all you think about (even when you try desparately not to).

      1. 2014babyhopeful, I want to first reassure you that God loves you…no matter what has happened…HE LOVES YOU. And because the God of the universe loves you, you can always have hope (Lamentations 3:24)! Never give up on what Jesus has done on your behalf. Look to Him in the midst of the doubt and despair. The Scriptures tell us that in His presence is fullness of joy. You are enduring against the attack of the enemy, the devil, on a few different fronts in your life. As difficult as that may be, be encouraged as you remind yourself of Who is on your side. I hope it helps to know that many people are and will be praying for you as they read your comment.

      2. Thank you for your story. I want to let you know that I am rooting for you and I am praying for you. God has a plan for all of us and he certainly does answer prayers. For future references, pray with faith. (The size of a mustard seed is all you need.and the mustard seed is the smallest seed on earth, but it grows to become a great plant) The reason I’m saying this to you is because my faith is growing so greatly as God continues to speak to me an answer my prayers. Also remember that God is a jealous God. Do not put your wants and desires before him. Put God first, pray with humility and see how he begins to work things out in your life. I pray that God opens your womb that’s you may bear fruit in the name of Jesus. Amen.

  15. God is forever faithful, regardless of our current need. Married for 2yrs now and waiting on God for his reward Ps.127vs3

    1. Vee, it’s always good to remind ourselves of God’s faithfulness. One effective way to do that is by praising Him out loud (songs, praying in tongues, gratitude for what He’s already done, etc.). It helps us to keep your focus on His love for you. Praying that in the waiting, you’ll have confidence that not only is God able but that He is also willing!

  16. I have been in a relationship for 4 years, he is 36 and i am 57, we spoke of children and at the time he did not want to have any. The last year his view has changed and he now wants to have a child knowing i can not give him a baby. He does not want to adopt, foster. He is now praying for guidance on he knows he loves me but will he resent me in years to come. I am at a loss what to do or think. I have been praying for guidance in this situation but have not received any clarification.

      1. We used to know each other about 6 years and lost contact, he is overseas now. then reconnected 4 years ago and are engaged to be married.

        1. Dia, I know that God loves you and wants His best for you. Consider asking Him for wisdom (James 1:5) as you seek Him about your impending marriage and the role children would have/not have in it. James 3:17 declares, “But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.”

          Marriage is not to be entered into lightly. Making plans for its success is the best way to enter into it and to maintain it. This is a conversation that you and fiance must have on a very open and honest level with one another. You’ll know that you both are operating in the wisdom of God when the decisions bring peace, not fear, to you. Praying that you’ll seek and receive the wisdom God is ready to pour out on you!

  17. Hi Evangeline.
    I’ve been really down the last week – we did a round of IVF which failed and we couldn’t afford to do more than one round. I keep thinking that I will never bear my own child or see what he or she looks like. I see babies and my heart breaks so desperately wanting my own. We been trying for 6 and a half years now. I have a blocked tube, adenomyosis, my eggs have thick outer membranes that they had to inject sperm into to fertilise. They transferred 3 embryos but none implanted. I am trying to pick myself up and focus on other things : health, family, marriage, quality of life and last, but definitely not least : God. I’ve been angry with him as I cant understand how drug abusers, child abusers and people who don’t believe in God and don’t want children as desperately as some others do – how does God give them a baby when those who most desire to be parents struggle?? I’ve been clinging to Psalm 113 : 9 “He gives the childless woman a family and makes her a happy mother”… We are looking into adoption but I am still praying for a miracle that all these infertility issues be resolved and that we are given our miracle. I cannot let go of the desire to bear my own child.

    1. Sharon, I know it’s hard to see others enjoying what you long to have. Please recognize that it is not God who has caused infertility. It’s His desire that none be barren (Deuteronomy 7:14). We have an enemy, the devil, that is working to keep us from having all the good things that God intends for us to have.

      The good news is that we have a God who loves us, is greater than the devil AND has provided His Word to be used as a tool to bring life and goodness to our lives. As we apply our faith to His promises and trust in His love, we begin to see positive change occur. I encourage you to see the numerous scriptures that are applicable to infertility in the appendix of my book, A Seed of Hope: God’s Promises of Fertility.

      Believing and speaking God’s Word are important– they are the means by which we have access to God’s deliverance, protection, healing, etc. (Romans 10:9,10). I’m praying that through reading His Word and putting it to use, you’ll experience new revelation about His love for YOU!

      1. Wow Evangeline, thank you for this feed and for listening to our Father in Heaven by addressing the challenges of infertility.

        My husband and I have been trying for 4 years now and as we are both comimg up to our 45th birthdays I have been told that (due to the age of my eggs) even with IVF my chances of pregnancy are pretty non existent.

        We have tried one round of IVF which was unsucccessful and were considering another when I had a word from God telling me not to bother. This was more than ok with me especually as I hate wasting money! However at that moment, I also made the decision that I was going to put my trust in God and not man.

        I have never been pregnant before but have received a couple of prophetic words about my husbsnd and I having a baby of which give me such hope. I also have a whole heap of people praying for me including a group of (mainly) older married mothers.

        After reading your advice I will now start to pray healing verses over myself in the name of Jesus and go from there. I will also buy your book 🙂

        God Bless you Evangeline for your tireless work in giving support to all of us women who struggle with infertility. There is nothing like some one who has been there, done that and bought the t-shirt, sacrificing their time and using their experience to help others in need.

        Again I say, God bless you. X

        1. Ann Marie, you are so welcome! Continue to remind yourself of God’s very personal love for you and of His integrity to keep ALL His promises (2 Corinthians 1:20). Praying for you… 🙂

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